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soc_puppet) wrote2019-09-10 09:26 pm
soc_puppet) wrote2019-09-10 09:26 pm
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...Fucking hell. I don't want to start wank, and this is a person I otherwise find interesting and want to get to know better and potentially have as a fandom friend, but uh. "If you like but don't reblog, I'm disappointed it you?" (Not you, alexseanchai; I'm linking your reblog because it includes the image descriptions. Also we are already friends, so.)
I feel like this is, in part, a major cultural difference between fans who primarily got started on FF.net and LJ and so forth, and fans who primarily got started on Tumblr. But I'm also not that huge a fan of the whole "Reblog or I will guilt you about it" thing, or the "This is how you fandom correctly" thing, no matter the context.
And I also feel like, if I bring any of this up on Tumblr, it is more likely to turn into wank than a productive conversation, due to the nature of Tumblr as a content aggregation site. Any productive conversation we may try to have will almost inevitably get lost as people reblog from one of us and not the other, and I just. Don't want to go there! Especially since I should already be turning the light out tonight, as I have work tomorrow, and trying to do any sort of damage control or prevention on Tumblr would necessitate me staying up probably another hour and a half, maybe longer.
But also, if I don't say anything I'll be disappointed in myself and probably toss and turn anyway for at least an hour and a half, still without getting any sleep?
So, compromise: Posting about it here. Hopefully tomorrow I'll either have gotten over this, or come up with a diplomatic/polite enough way to phrase "That guilt trip thing you're doing is making me uncomfortable, and the way you're trying to make me interact with social media on your terms rather than my own is not helping even a little" that I can send an ask or something and then get on with my life.
alexseanchai; I'm linking your reblog because it includes the image descriptions. Also we are already friends, so.)I feel like this is, in part, a major cultural difference between fans who primarily got started on FF.net and LJ and so forth, and fans who primarily got started on Tumblr. But I'm also not that huge a fan of the whole "Reblog or I will guilt you about it" thing, or the "This is how you fandom correctly" thing, no matter the context.
And I also feel like, if I bring any of this up on Tumblr, it is more likely to turn into wank than a productive conversation, due to the nature of Tumblr as a content aggregation site. Any productive conversation we may try to have will almost inevitably get lost as people reblog from one of us and not the other, and I just. Don't want to go there! Especially since I should already be turning the light out tonight, as I have work tomorrow, and trying to do any sort of damage control or prevention on Tumblr would necessitate me staying up probably another hour and a half, maybe longer.
But also, if I don't say anything I'll be disappointed in myself and probably toss and turn anyway for at least an hour and a half, still without getting any sleep?
So, compromise: Posting about it here. Hopefully tomorrow I'll either have gotten over this, or come up with a diplomatic/polite enough way to phrase "That guilt trip thing you're doing is making me uncomfortable, and the way you're trying to make me interact with social media on your terms rather than my own is not helping even a little" that I can send an ask or something and then get on with my life.
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I have zero time for people who post things like that, and things like that are definitely part of why I never could get into Tumblr in any meaningful way.
If someone doesn't like the way I run my own blog, they are cordially invited to keep out of it. How incredibly rude and entitled to think that you get to tell other people how to use their own personal blogs. (A gentle hint might be acceptable, but not this guilt-tripping, Let Me Tell You How You're Doing Fandom Wrong approach!) Not to mention how pointless it is; you are not the Empress of Fandom, and nobody is going to heed your Imperial Commands regarding Correct Fan Behaviour.
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I mean, I sympathize to a certain extent? I, too, yearn for the days when fandom interaction and communication was in the style I found most familiar and comfortable, but I deal with that by trying to make Dreamwidth as enticing as possible to people who might be interested in it, not by... this mess.