The main problem here is probably the "passive" part

[soc_puppet]

I kinda wanna make a long ranty post re: my thoughts on passive-aggressiveness and why I think it is a really stupid behavior, but that would be about 100% hypocritical.

Unless sitting and reading elsewhere instead would be passive-aggressive.

Hmmm. Conundrum.

*goes to take her meds*

Edit: Hack that, I'm so writing that rant. Writing is way more active than sitting and reading, and it does something about it, even if I don't confront all the people who annoy me with it directly. Probably won't be written today - I've got pet food to mix - but written it will be.

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[lyzzle.livejournal.com]

As someone who has put up with a passive-aggressive roommate for the last semester, I approve of this plan.

[soc_puppet]

Passive-aggressive behavior!

What does it solve? Nothing!
What does it exacerbate? The thing you have a problem with!*
What should we do? Something active to solve our problems!
Go, active responses!


* This may not always be the case, but has been in at least two circumstances that I know of, so I'm counting it as a pattern.

[lyzzle.livejournal.com]

That's always been the case as far as I've known. :/ Also you should mention something about notes. Notes are classic passive-aggressive behavior.

[soc_puppet]

Just one more reason it's not an appropriate response :/

Yeah, I think I get what you mean with notes. I mean, if someone makes a mess, say, and doesn't clean it up, then leaving them a note to find is not really going to help. Also, break-ups and other relationship stuff.

I'm pretty sure there are exceptions to the "no notes" rule - for example, if you have clinical depression and need to get help but can't bring yourself to tell anyone in any other way - but the more I think about it, the more I agree that it's a bad idea in general.

Confronting problems on the internet could probably go either way, though, so I'm counting it as separate from notes :/

[lyzzle.livejournal.com]

Yeah, or like, leaving a note admonishing someone for not doing something you were perfectly capable of verbally asking someone to do, seeing as how you were in the room at the time the person didn't do it. And in that note, calling the person who didn't somehow manage to read your mind and do what you wanted but didn't ask them to do rude and "subtly" insulting their upbringing.

...Well, yeah. But that's not really passive-aggressive. Notes aren't necessarily passive-aggressive, but passive-aggressive people are famous for leaving notes. (See here (http://www.passiveaggressivenotes.com/).)

I don't think it's the same. You're still actively doing something, instead of leaving a message and hoping they comply. Also, confronting things on the internet leaves the possibility of a response that isn't awkward as all hell. Notes don't.

[polysamachan.livejournal.com]

Actually, I'll say that the only thing an active response did in my most recent situation was embarrass my roomie so thoroughly that she wrote me another email 30 seconds later to apologize.