Got into a minor tiff with a flatmate (wow, watch me appropriate British slang!), misunderstood the relative, uh. Size? Weightiness? Of the tiff. It was in the minor-to-moderate range rather than the nothing-to-minor range, the latter being what I originally estimated it as being.
To compound that, I didn't find out how much of an issue it actually was until she ranted about it on her LJ - rather than talk to me about it. This is at least the second time she's ranted about something I've done IRL on her journal when I was obviously not part of the intended audience (or was so only in the most roundabout fashion). As of the previous time, I thought I'd managed to let her know I'd rather find out about her IRL problems with me IRL first and on my f'list second, but uh. Apparently I was not as clear as I thought I was =_=a
The previously mentioned "drastic" measure may be me defriending her in order to respect her right to rant about me "behind my back", as it were, without making her (or me, for that matter) jump through the hoops of creating filters or somesuch. Because the last thing I want to read on my f'list is complaints about me or my behavior that are not directed at me, specifically.
Anyhow, we talked things out, and while most of the stuff is good, we did not come to any -particularly- clear resolution where "everything would go back to how it was except for these small changes". Instead, we got some slightly awkward silences (as far as I could tell), which I am hoping will go away by sometime tomorrow :|b
Oh, plus work has been somewhat stressful lately. But that's not what this post was about, so yeah ¦D
Anyhow! Thank you for letting me vent <3 I'm feeling somewhat better now.
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Date: 2009-04-22 02:45 am (UTC)Got into a minor tiff with a flatmate (wow, watch me appropriate British slang!), misunderstood the relative, uh. Size? Weightiness? Of the tiff. It was in the minor-to-moderate range rather than the nothing-to-minor range, the latter being what I originally estimated it as being.
To compound that, I didn't find out how much of an issue it actually was until she ranted about it on her LJ - rather than talk to me about it. This is at least the second time she's ranted about something I've done IRL on her journal when I was obviously not part of the intended audience (or was so only in the most roundabout fashion). As of the previous time, I thought I'd managed to let her know I'd rather find out about her IRL problems with me IRL first and on my f'list second, but uh. Apparently I was not as clear as I thought I was =_=a
The previously mentioned "drastic" measure may be me defriending her in order to respect her right to rant about me "behind my back", as it were, without making her (or me, for that matter) jump through the hoops of creating filters or somesuch. Because the last thing I want to read on my f'list is complaints about me or my behavior that are not directed at me, specifically.
Anyhow, we talked things out, and while most of the stuff is good, we did not come to any -particularly- clear resolution where "everything would go back to how it was except for these small changes". Instead, we got some slightly awkward silences (as far as I could tell), which I am hoping will go away by sometime tomorrow :|b
Oh, plus work has been somewhat stressful lately. But that's not what this post was about, so yeah ¦D
Anyhow! Thank you for letting me vent <3 I'm feeling somewhat better now.