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soc_puppetToday in Posts I'm Too Scared to Make on Tumblr:
In response to this post, about people who are questioning their gender and/or sexual identity and come to the conclusion that they are cis and straight (and have no evidence to suggest that they're intersex).
What place do straight people have in![[community profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/community.png)
queerly_beloved?
If we accept questioning people (and my conscience says we must), then we also need to accept that some of them might find the answer is they're not queer/LGBTQIAP+. It's rare, I know, especially for folks who spend a good amount of time asking themselves, but they do exist.
I don't want to necessarily kick them out of a community where they've found support that they need, and where they can potentially support others as well; if they stay, how might their role in the community change?
My inclination is, "Straight, cis, perisex people are allowed, but don't make any post all about you unless you have actual, first-hand lived experience with an issue (such as questioning your gender/sexuality and/or supporting a queer/LGBTQIAP+ loved one, especially at the intersection with other marginalizations), and prioritize non-straight voices on non-straight issues." Do you think that would fly? Should I open the discussion up on the community?
Halp!
(I've been thinking about this since the inception of Queerly Beloved, okay, and I've only gotten enough courage to post about it now. So, uh, thank you Alex for reblogging that post ♥)
In response to this post, about people who are questioning their gender and/or sexual identity and come to the conclusion that they are cis and straight (and have no evidence to suggest that they're intersex).
What place do straight people have in
queerly_beloved?If we accept questioning people (and my conscience says we must), then we also need to accept that some of them might find the answer is they're not queer/LGBTQIAP+. It's rare, I know, especially for folks who spend a good amount of time asking themselves, but they do exist.
I don't want to necessarily kick them out of a community where they've found support that they need, and where they can potentially support others as well; if they stay, how might their role in the community change?
My inclination is, "Straight, cis, perisex people are allowed, but don't make any post all about you unless you have actual, first-hand lived experience with an issue (such as questioning your gender/sexuality and/or supporting a queer/LGBTQIAP+ loved one, especially at the intersection with other marginalizations), and prioritize non-straight voices on non-straight issues." Do you think that would fly? Should I open the discussion up on the community?
Halp!
(I've been thinking about this since the inception of Queerly Beloved, okay, and I've only gotten enough courage to post about it now. So, uh, thank you Alex for reblogging that post ♥)
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Date: 2020-04-10 03:02 am (UTC)(IIRC, some of them do ID as straight, as do some other folks who are welcome under the queer umbrella, and I don't want to leave them out. "Trans people can ID as straight!" was one of the rallying cries of the "Drop the T" crowd, after all 😤😡🤬)