Stuff it, Jiminy
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soc_puppetI will not be passive-aggressive in response to someone else being passive-aggressive.
I will not be passive-aggressive in response to someone else being passive-aggressive.
I will not be passive-aggressive in response to someone else being passive-aggressive.
I will not be passive-aggressive in response to someone else being passive-aggressive.
I will not be passive-aggressive in - ah, fuck it.
1) Racism (and other diversity issues) hurt a lot more people a lot more often than do bad science issues in television and movies. The fact that you can't see this is a facet of white privilege.
2) If you want me to shut up about it, you could actually tell me this, like [other person] did. It was nice being able to vent to one of two people, but I can live with zero if it means we have a better relationship. Likewise, if you'd rather we each just complain and let complain, LET ME KNOW. Tell me it's not fair that I get to complain about [x] but you can't complain about [y] without me trying to rationalize it! I will take the hint and shut up while you complain, I promise!
3) Incidentally, being misquoted is a pretty significant pet peeve of mine. The MST3K Mantra can be found here, for future reference. (I also consider institutionalized isms to be bigger than just one show, movie, or commercial. Bad science can be corrected with relative ease on a case-by-case basis; institutionalized isms are a lot harder to nail down.)
The next time I see you, I will go back to not bringing up issues one and three to your face, though we will definitely be talking about issue two at some point in the near future.
I'll probably also take "drastic" measures instead of failing to communicate my "passive aggressivity" issue to you again.
I will not be passive-aggressive in response to someone else being passive-aggressive.
I will not be passive-aggressive in response to someone else being passive-aggressive.
I will not be passive-aggressive in response to someone else being passive-aggressive.
I will not be passive-aggressive in - ah, fuck it.
1) Racism (and other diversity issues) hurt a lot more people a lot more often than do bad science issues in television and movies. The fact that you can't see this is a facet of white privilege.
2) If you want me to shut up about it, you could actually tell me this, like [other person] did. It was nice being able to vent to one of two people, but I can live with zero if it means we have a better relationship. Likewise, if you'd rather we each just complain and let complain, LET ME KNOW. Tell me it's not fair that I get to complain about [x] but you can't complain about [y] without me trying to rationalize it! I will take the hint and shut up while you complain, I promise!
3) Incidentally, being misquoted is a pretty significant pet peeve of mine. The MST3K Mantra can be found here, for future reference. (I also consider institutionalized isms to be bigger than just one show, movie, or commercial. Bad science can be corrected with relative ease on a case-by-case basis; institutionalized isms are a lot harder to nail down.)
The next time I see you, I will go back to not bringing up issues one and three to your face, though we will definitely be talking about issue two at some point in the near future.
I'll probably also take "drastic" measures instead of failing to communicate my "passive aggressivity" issue to you again.
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Date: 2009-04-22 01:30 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2009-04-22 02:45 am (UTC)Got into a minor tiff with a flatmate (wow, watch me appropriate British slang!), misunderstood the relative, uh. Size? Weightiness? Of the tiff. It was in the minor-to-moderate range rather than the nothing-to-minor range, the latter being what I originally estimated it as being.
To compound that, I didn't find out how much of an issue it actually was until she ranted about it on her LJ - rather than talk to me about it. This is at least the second time she's ranted about something I've done IRL on her journal when I was obviously not part of the intended audience (or was so only in the most roundabout fashion). As of the previous time, I thought I'd managed to let her know I'd rather find out about her IRL problems with me IRL first and on my f'list second, but uh. Apparently I was not as clear as I thought I was =_=a
The previously mentioned "drastic" measure may be me defriending her in order to respect her right to rant about me "behind my back", as it were, without making her (or me, for that matter) jump through the hoops of creating filters or somesuch. Because the last thing I want to read on my f'list is complaints about me or my behavior that are not directed at me, specifically.
Anyhow, we talked things out, and while most of the stuff is good, we did not come to any -particularly- clear resolution where "everything would go back to how it was except for these small changes". Instead, we got some slightly awkward silences (as far as I could tell), which I am hoping will go away by sometime tomorrow :|b
Oh, plus work has been somewhat stressful lately. But that's not what this post was about, so yeah ¦D
Anyhow! Thank you for letting me vent <3 I'm feeling somewhat better now.
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Date: 2009-04-22 12:09 pm (UTC)